The Lessons of  Self-Pity

An excerpt from Nandia’s Children, Book III of The Nandia Trilogy

Then Nandia turned to speak again to Margie. “And now young lady, would you mind going back to the idea that your health problems are incurable?” Nandia stepped forward and extended her hand. Margie nodded her head, reached out, took Nandia’s hand and then rose to stand beside her at the front of the room.

          “Earlier, I noticed that you had some tears when talking about what medical professionals have told you,” Nandia said warmly. “I want to thank you for your openness. It takes a lot of courage to stand up here in front of everyone on our first morning together. Would you be willing to say more about how it felt when you heard that your body has an incurable disease?”

          Margie nodded and looked down to consider Nandia’s question. “I felt really sad and hopeless,” she said, as tears again began welling up in her eyes.

          “Yes, I think any of us would feel the same,” Nandia replied. She paused a moment before continuing. “And is there any chance you’re also feeling sorry for yourself – self-pity?”

          Suddenly, tears began to flow in earnest down Margie’s cheeks. She nodded, slumped over, her hands quickly hiding her face. Gently Nandia reached out to embrace Margie, who opened her arms and fell into a tight embrace.

          They held each other for a long moment as the rest of us dropped our eyes out of quiet respect. A golden-white healing light emanated from Nandia and quickly enfolded the young woman’s energy field. For a moment, it pulsed, then magnified and became brighter – the two women nearly disappearing within its intensity.

          Margie’s tears soon abated and the embrace came to an end. From the folds of her gown, Nandia offered a tissue. Drying her eyes, Margie nodded with an embarrassed smiled of gratitude.

          “It’s natural for us to feel sorry for ourselves, especially upon hearing such despairing news from a trusted authority,” Nandia said, consoling the young woman.

          She then turned toward the audience. “I encourage all of you to consider that we create health challenges because the Inner, Eternal Self sees such challenges as the best way to expand our conscious perspectives and way of thinking. I create my health problems for my own individual growth, in my own unique way. As soon as we accept that, self-pity automatically dissolves. Suffering is not a requirement in order to grow through and heal any health difficulties.

          “Simply because the medical profession does not know how a problem can be healed, does not mean your body cannot heal. Each healing is an individual act of creation, which each of us is entirely capable of. Each physical healing represents some way we have allowed our own consciousness to expand. So remember, self-pity blocks healing. And the remedy for self-pity is simply to trust that you have placed this exact condition on your path for a constructive purpose.”

          Turning back to Margie, she asked, “How are you feeling now, young lady?” she asked.

          “Much better,” the youngster said. “So, Nandia, you’re saying it’s up to me whether or not I heal this problem?”

          “Exactly,” Nandia said smiling. “We’ll be exploring the kinds of beliefs that cause such problems a bit later. For now, whenever you notice that you are feeling sorry for yourself, consider the idea that you alone have placed these health challenges on your path.” Smiling at Nandia, Margie gratefully embraced her again and then returned to her seat.

           "Obviously, the attitude of self-pity,” Nandia continued, “is based on the denial of our individual power to create our own life's experience. Keep in mind that all emotional upsets, mental conflict or pain are self-created messengers. No one has any disease, circumstance or death ever thrust upon them.

          “The immediate message of any discomfort that we are in a process of healing. The deeper message is that, by allowing the process, we will discover the distorted beliefs that initially caused the problem. Once we get the message and change our thinking, the imbalance clears, or, said another way, healing happens. Healing is a constant in our lives, otherwise our bodies could not survive. The only real question is, how long will it take for you to heal? If you believe a problem is incurable, you’ll needlessly suffer until after you’ve died before allowing yourself to heal."

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